The next Target Area: Health…….. or so I thought!

IMG_20150526_224405I had a massive turning point this weekend, it was a combination of several things but the main one was this following conversation: Son(aged7) whilst touching my tummy: ‘Mummy, is there a baby in there’ Me: ‘No sweet heart’ Son: ‘But it is getting very big, are your sure mummy?’ Me: ‘Yes, I am quite sure’ Son: ‘I do think there is mummy, just look how big it is getting’ I then went on to explain that we have a perfect little family, mummy daddy, him and his little sister which he replied to that he wanted another baby, one that he could help look after. I explained that our two bed house was too small, even with his kind offer to share his bed and to get up in the night. He doubled checked twos days later that my tummy wasn’t getting bigger because of a baby inside, this time I explained that he wasn’t in trouble for saying so but it could make people very sad if he said that to other people, (2 years ago such rumor was floating around the playground about myself, people talked to me as if it was fact, which made it even harder to say no I am not pregnant just fat!) Oh dear, then later on my husband kindly said when I put on an item of clothing that maybe I should choose another item because that one didn’t flatter me too greatly……. I told him none of my clothes flatter me greatly… my tummy looks big because it is and wore it anyway! You may think I would be feeling down about this but I am actually not, don’t get me wrong I was until, I made a mini plan which started with booking a hair appointment to sort my mop out, which I had done yesterday, seriously I looked like the lion in the Wizard of OZ!, plus (now that I have great hair) I did my balance wheel in my head and I realised this was my weakness at the moment, I wasn’t exercising as I had started using the car to do the school runs because I didn’t have the time to cycle up since I had taken on more jobs at the farm. This sorting my life out  was never going to be an overnight success and each day brings a new challenge that alters the balance. The key is to regularly asses the situation and tweek! But there is a Big BUT!! (and I don’t mean the new size rear to go with the belly!) I then did my balance wheel for real and after going through the questions I realised I have some how become a headless chicken in the house again, struggling to get things done.. now this gets me down because this affects the atmosphere in the house and my relationship with my children! It was after seeing a post on Facebook by Kelly at Project Me that made me realise my errors, her posts always seem to come at the right time with my troubles! You’re telling yourself a lie when you say ‘I don’t need to write that down – I’ll remember it.’ -Kelly Pietrangeli That’s it! My Notebook/ Diary, I have stopped using it! I have stopped writing down job lists, maybe I have become over confident that my organisation was going so well, maybe the increase in work load needed more support or maybe I am letting things slip! Talking to someone else I would say how important it is to write job lists, no matter how small a job is, into a diary. If you run out of time move it to the next day, if you can see it has been moved for several days it’s importance becomes higher on your list other wise you will end up with those jobs you never get round to doing! Like the renewal of my delivery saver ( I wanted to use my points and they are doubled up.. so £30 worth of points = the £60 for the years delivery), I put it off, it renewed automatically (with a card that had been deactivated that week?!?! I guess my bank has a lapse for online for so many days!) But the very nice chap on the phone at the call centre refunded the money (to my new card) and I used my points… yay! This is actually a massive thing, the old me would have panicked, not rung up because I was so ashamed of my errors and hoped my husband didn’t see my errors on the bank statement, I would have worried myself stupid for the time till it came and when he asked about it I would have said something stupid and made it look worse! A very brief conclusion to today’s thoughts:

  1. Get the diary back out
  2. Schedule in some exercise!

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Dog Vs Platemeter

I have been off work since having my first who is now 7, this year my youngest started school and I had a term of getting used to being completely without them. Well it didn’t go too well because I am not always the best at organizing my own time (and we had the builders in, it was coming up to xmas… excuses, excuses) I didn’t want to go back to work because I like to be able to do the school runs and not worry about childcare when they are poorly plus not many jobs fit in around a farmer and his children! Christmas came and my husband took on more responsibility at the farm, now I have always helped with research and typing bits up and writing emails but now I have so much time with out the children my Hubby decided it was time to put me to better use! So I have been doing a lot more admin and helping around the farm, I refuse to actually work with him, I have to put up with him being grumpy and tired at home I don’t want it in the day too so I was given a gift, a platemeter. For any non-farming readers, a platemeter is a tool we use to measure the grass and work out how much feed is in a field, then we can work out how long they should be in a field for and how much extra feed needs to be given.

He told me he knows I like to be out doors and could do with the exercise, I replied with ‘what was wrong with a dog!’ but actually when I sat down and thought about it I think a platemeter might be the better option and here is why:

  • It gives me a push to go for 2x 2 hour walk a week, but is flexible on which hour and day so I can dodge the rain!
  • It cost the same as a Puppy at over £300 so that was a draw
  • I get paid to do it
  • It only requires a bit of oil and a new battery a few times a year and doesn’t require feeding twice a day, trips to the vets, new collars and leads etc. wins on its on going costs!
  • It doesn’t make a mess and doesn’t have any poo to pick up (I seriously can’t do this with out retching)
  • It makes me feel like I have an important role to do on the farm and I am supporting my Husband in his work. It has created a common interest for us to talk about and both understand, after so long away from going to work with him it makes a difference being involved in the farm and understanding what is happening.

His dream is for us to one day to have our own farm, and he usually gets what he wants because he works so hard for it. Because of this I know it is crucial for me to understand what goes on at the farm and to support the dream. I am also back at school learning bookkeeping and want to go on to do my accounting qualifications too.
I also appreciate most of you who are farmers wives will probably be more involved on the farm than I am, I would love to hear your tips and advise on how to make the relationship work whilst working together, or just general tips about farming especially dairy-farming!
Many thanks for reading, especially to my non farming followers

School Holidays… Change of plan

Holidays can easily become chaos, No routine, No purpose to the day.. STOP!! So it is Monday morning, yes we turned the alarm off today but when we woke we started the day as normal. Children’s clothes weren’t laid out, they get to choose today, and whilst they do this I am down stairs emptying the dishwasher (which Hubby put on during eco7 when he went to work), setting the table for breakfast and something a bit different… putting 2 pieces of paper on the table next to the breakfast bowls titled ‘Wish list for Easter Holidays’ and here are the lists (they wanted quite similar things so I have put it into one…funnily enough homework wasn’t mentioned!):

  • playdough dresses (thank youtube for this) / Monsters/ cooking
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  • swimming
  • playing princesses/ Men
  • playing in the garden
  • going for a walk
  • going to the farm
  • going to the park (3 different ones were mentioned)
  • playing football
  • bake cakes
  • bike riding / scooters
  • make a den
  • cinemas
  • McDonalds
  • visiting grandparents
  • sleeping in the tent/ downstairs/ bedroom floor
  • Market
  • Home cinema
  • nails and tattoos
  • PJ day

From this together we create a planner putting in the things that can only happen at certain times and explaining them with the children: organised trip to grandparents, showing of film at the cinemas, local market, homework time etc and the movable items are written at the bottom to refer to and fill in when decided, we add some extra ones that I would like to do like reading books. Also we talk about mummy needing time to do the house chores and that the more they help the more time mummy will be able to do the activities they want, this time we are introducing time and money credits, helping me and doing their routines earn them. ‘extra time credits’ are for more time with me and ‘money credits’ are built up for activities that cost money (Mcdonalds, Cinema) This week on Facebook I will post some of the items we do in more detail so please pop over to either our twitter or Facebook page so you can see this too! Today I came across this list and have sat down with my children to see if there are anything they would like to do: (from :http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/intelligent-creative-child/boredom-busters-good-for-kids)

  • Make a book of jokes
  • Build a fort with blankets and pillows
  • Write your Grandma a letter
  • Cut out paper dolls and costumes for them
  • Get a magnet and make a list of everything in your house that is magnetized
  • Get a ruler and measure things in your house, recording their length
  • Run around the yard three times
  • Put on some music and dance
  • Make a laser obstacle course in your hall with yarn or tape
  • Wash the mirror with a sponge
  • Write down ten things you love about each person in your family
  • Brush the dog
  • Draw a tree
  • Make a dollhouse out of cardboard
  • Learn a tongue twister
  • Make homemade ice cream in a baggie
  • Dig a hole in the back yard
  • Give the dog a bath
  • Find shapes in the clouds
  • Make paper airplanes and fly them
  • See how many times you can dribble the basketball
  • Cut a guitar out of cardboard and add rubber band strings
  • Paint a picture
  • Play capture the flag
  • Wash the car
  • Make a birthday card
  • Plan a treasure hunt, with clues
  • Ride your bike
  • Make a scene in a cardboard box
  • Use boxes to build a castle
  • Use an eye dropper to drop vinegar tinted with food coloring onto a pie pan filled with baking soda
  • Start a journal
  • Make homemade wrapping paper
  • Mix ivory soap, kleenex and water to make clean clouds on a cookie sheet
  • Organize your room
  • Write a story
  • Create a play with costumes
  • Make paper bag puppets or sock puppets
  • Cut out pictures from magazines and make a collage
  • Use plain white paper and envelopes and decorate your own personalized stationery
  • Cut up old holiday cards and make holiday stickers for next year by coating the back with gelatin glue, let dry (dissolve 2 tsp gelatin in 5 tsp boiling water.)
  • Surprise your mom by making lunch
  • Make a zoo for your stuffed animals
  • Have a lemonade sale
  • Make & decorate a calendar of the summer, with important dates marked.
  • Put juice & cut-up fruit into ice cube trays to make ice cubes.
  • Create a family newspaper/newsletter
  • Make dessert
  • Use masking tape to make a race track for your cars all over your living room
  • Play Tag or Freeze Tag
  • Start a collection (leaves, rocks, buttons)
  • Hang a clothesline in your room and clip photos to it to make an album
  • Create a circus performance
  • Learn a new card game
  • Make a potion lab outside with food coloring and jars (wear an apron!)
  • Set up a shop and be the shop keeper
  • Make your room into a rainforest
  • Make a sculpture from pretzels and peanut butter
  • Write the story of your life
  • Do a something kind for someone, in secret
  • Make an obstacle course
  • Play Simon Says
  • Bowl in your hallway with soda bottles or toilet paper tubes
  • Make a placemat (just laminate it at the local copy shop)
  • Write some limericks or haiku
  • Decorate an old teeshirt with cool buttons & fabric pens
  • Start a club
  • Make rock candy
  • Plant a terrarium
  • Make a daisy chain
  • Decorate a rock and make a house to keep it as a pet
  • Use old cardboard tubes and boxes to build a marble maze.
  • Make “funky junk” art out of old jewelry
  • Read a book
  • Make snow globes or calming jars with glycerin and glitter
  • Have a water balloon fight (outside!)
  • Memorize a poem and recite it for your parents
  • Make a boat using a plastic soda bottle base & popsicle sticks (use duct tape) for the top, then float it at the pond.
  • Draw a picture of a desert island with all the things you would want on it
  • Blindfold your sibling & take them on a tour of your house & yard, then trade places.
  • Play a board game
  • Play Mother May I
  • Make a fairy house for your garden
  • Cut out a crown, tape into a circle to fit your head and decorate
  • Create your own board game
  • See if you can draw a picture with your foot.
  • Draw on the sidewalk with chalk
  • Play hopscotch
  • Set up a restaurant and serve pretend meals
  • Play jumprope
  • Play with bubbles in the sink
  • Plant some seeds
  • Make a windsock
  • Use the hose and a tarp to make a slip and slide on your lawn
  • Paint your toenails
  • Play dodgeball with a soft ball
  • Make a curving line of dominoes and knock the first one so they fall down in a row
  • Weed the garden
  • Make puppets with old socks, buttons & markers.
  • Make a list of fun things you can do without a grownup
  • Mix liquid hand soap, cornstarch and food coloring into paint and paint the bathtub.
  • String beads to make friendship bracelets.
  • Use the hose, pvc pipe and soda bottles to construct waterways in your yard
  • Use pipe cleaners to make animals
  • Use pipe cleaners to make an indoor ring toss game
  • Use a basket and string to rig an elevator to hoist stuffed animals up your stairwell
  • String a necklace out of pasta
  • Practice kicking a soccer ball
  • Glue popsicle sticks together to make picture frames, decorate.
  • Make and fill a bird feeder
  • Make playdoh
  • Paint sea shells or rocks
  • Make bean bags
  • Blow bubbles
  • Give your dolls or stuffed animals a bubble bath

And with a massive pat on my own back for most of them they said ‘oo we have done that one before’ !!

The next part of being organised..

Target area number 1: Productivity 
Sub Target: House chores

So I thought I would transfer the food method in my last post to the house chores, I would go threw each room one at a time noting the jobs included in that room then create a chores planner and I also thought I could make the results into a page on this blog. I wasn’t sure the best way to do this but here is the write up from my list (covering everything from daily to deep clean) this is probably missing things so please leave comments below and I am also interested on your views on how often each things should be done:

Living Room:

  • Sweeping floors/
  • Hoovering: Floors, in between the sofa, behind the radiators, pulling the sofa out,
  • Dusting: fireplace, TV, TV stand, tables, windowsills, picture frames, Computer, pipes,  skirting board
  • Window cleaning: Windows, TV Screen, Glass in doors
  • Carpet clean/ pressure wash the rug
  • Sorting DVDs out (or getting the Children to as they are the culprits on this)
  • Watering plants before they wilt
  • Marks on the wall: Wiping them off, Painting over them (try to remember to sand down)
  • Mopping floors
  • Clean Light switches

Kitchen:

  • Wipe sides down
  • Clean cupboard fronts
  • Clean light switches
  • Sweeping floors/ Hoover
  • Dusting: windowsills, picture frames, Microwave (external), pipes,  skirting board
  • Window cleaning: Windows, Mirror, Clocks
  • Watering plants before they wilt
  • Marks on the wall: Wiping them off, Painting over them (try to remember to sand down)
  • Cleaning oven/ Grill / Hob
  • Clean the Microwave (internal)
  • Sink: wipe down, use cleaning spray, bleach plug and overflow
  • Cupboards: New food to the back, check dates, take pots and pans out to wipe it all out, clean handles,
  • Draws: declutter, wipe out
  • Fridge: ‘Stock rotation’ check dates, clean shelves, Clean outside
  • Washing machine: clean the door and rubber, wipe down the outside, use washing machine cleaner, clean detergent draw.
  • Dishwasher: Wipe down the outside, use special cleaner on inside, clean filter and take filter tray part out to clean
  • Tumble drier: ALWAYS EMPTY FILTER AFTER USE
  • Kitchen Table and Chairs: wipe down after use, declutter, use protector and table cloth, wipe legs and back of chairs
  • Empty bin

Bathroom:

  • Wipe sides down
  • Clean cupboard fronts
  • Clean light switches
  • Hoover
  • Dusting: windowsills, picture frames, ornaments, skirting board
  • Window cleaning: Windows, Mirror
  • Watering plants before they wilt
  • Marks on the wall: Wiping them off, Painting over them (try to remember to sand down)
  • Sink: wipe down, use cleaning spray, bleach plug and overflow
  • Cupboards: wipe it all out, clean handles,
  • Bath: rinse after use, spray and wipe down, mold spray
  • Shower: Anti limescale (or white vinegar) shower head, unit after use, (glass cleaner if applicable), (wash/change shower curtain if applicable), wipe top of unit (as it gets damp dusting is limited in  bathroom)
  • Leave window open to air out when wet/ use vent (we haven’t got one but i would still recommend a good airing out)
  • Toilet: Clean seat, Bleach, Limescale remover, wipe base and around the back
  • Clean pipes
  • Empty bin

Bed Rooms:

  • Hoovering: Floors, cupboards, behind the radiators, behind/ under the beds, materess to remove dust mite
  • Dusting: windowsills, picture frames, ornaments, pipes, chest of draws, shelves, headboard,  skirting board
  • Window cleaning: windows, mirror
  • Carpet Clean
  • Marks on the wall: Wiping them off, Painting over them (try to remember to sand down)
  • Clean Light switches
  • Change bedding

Hallway/ Stairs:

  • Hoover
  • Dust: Shelf, windowsill, banister, skirting board
  • Wipes walls/ Paint
  • Window clean

 

Clothes:

  • Put clothes that aren’t dirty away
  • Dirty in wash basket
  • light and darks separate in machine
  • Iron
  • Fold/hang
  • Mend/ recycle/ Bin

Maybe there are items you won’t need but I went threw my rooms and based this on what I have, I will tackle the garden another day! Looking forward to some interaction on this post ❤

 

Time Flies… When you are getting life sorted!

So why so long since my last blog… simple I am focusing on my first area and to give it my all finding time to write this blog was not a priority… too good to be true… yes! My arch nemesis Facebook has taken too much of my life as per usual, I run 2 community pages and am setting up my own business page. They do take up a lot of time BUT if it wasn’t this I was wasting time on it would be something else and at least with these I am doing some good by supporting my local community! I am a procrastinator by nature unless its something exciting then I am your number one women to put as much enthusiasm in as you need!

Back to my target area number 1: Productivity 
Sub Target Food: Eating healthy, reducing wasted food and reducing the shopping bill!
So a little back ground on this, I live where there isn’t a local shop and I only have limited access to a car as we decided to ditch the second car a few years ago. I use a local supermarket to deliver my shopping on a delivery saver (using points doubled up to pay for the delivery saver fee so it costs £30 in points a year) and can have a delivery every day if I wanted to.
First thing I did was write down all the food/meals my family would eat, it was actually a much longer list than I thought and from there I made a food plan for a 3 week rotation then before I place my shopping order (I do this 3 times a week) I check I am only buying what I need till the next shop unless it is an offer that will end before I need an item. I buy using the shops app from the list of items previously bought or search for items direct, I do not stray to the offers section because it’s not an offer if you don’t actually need to buy it! and I always check an offer is actually cheaper than the alternative size/ brands options.

I do like to visit the store maybe once every other month and last time I used this to buy alternatives to my normal brand loving purchases, I sneaked them in and didn’t tell my husband or children.. if they didn’t notice the swap stayed! (some items they did notice and preferred!) and I do stray away from the plan but there is a lot less stress around dinner times so considering the short amount of time its a massive success! It may be a coincident but the Children seem to be eating better too!

In addition to the above I have also been learning how to cook new meals! I have very little knowledge in the cooking department but this week alone have made soups, cakes (apple cake and banana and oatmeal muffins) and even managed a traditional roux with out it being lumpy or tasting of flour like previous attempts for my broccoli and pasta bake. If productivity was based on cooking it would be pretty high on the scale at the moment!

http://allrecipes.co.uk/recipe/31430/cheesy-broccoli-pasta-bake.aspx

Area 1: Productivity

This and ‘Fun’ were my lowest scoring areas on the life wheel tool provided by project me. I made the decision fun wouldn’t improve until I was more organised to fit more fun time in. Here are the lines that I agree with are me from the productivity life area prompts:

‘Feel like a headless chicken? Never enough hours in the day? Do you struggle with juggling the needs of kids,partner,work, home and everything else? Do you suffer from feeling overwhelmed? Like its all just too much? Are you a procrastinator? DO YOU FEEL LIKE THE FAMILY SLAVE? ‘

I also have a feeling it is not money, as the song goes, but productivity that’s the route of all evil in my life!

Next step is to tackle it straight on with a plan.

First I will write a list of jobs I should be getting done weekly and daily, including the children’s routine, then create a weekly plan of action. I also want to write a list of food the family will eat and a do a meal planner.

Screaming Mother

A new year, a new start.

So who am I… A very good question! I am a 29 year old SAHM to 2 Children who are now both at school, Wife to a Farmer and after that I am not too sure. I do know I seem to have everything out of balance and as a Mother my main worry is not getting it right for the children. I have suffered in the past from depression, I even started treatment as having a Personality Disorder but it took so long to get help that I had actually stopped feeling depressed, in fact felt stronger than I had done in a very long time and didn’t continue with any further treatment (the door has been left open to resume if I want to). I have been like the duck sailing along smoothly but underneath paddling against the current like mad, it has at times taken me under but I am floating at the moment, just. So its time to float more confidently and take a serious look at all the parts that make me to balance my life. In my quest to do this I discovered ‘Project Me’ over at http://www.myprojectme.com and something seems to have clicked, I am no longer trying to complete the puzzle in one go, frantically changing from one area to another I am going to tackle each area at a time, Improving, reassessing and hopefully the final pieces will eventually slot in. I want to stop feeling like I am failing in life and that the grass is greener on the otherside. I want to have a good solid relationship with my children where I don’t need to be shouting all the time so the ‘Screaming Mother’ will be reduced if not completely shut out!

Thank you for reading x

This is post No.1, hopefully it will keep me on track!